The Whitsdom Press

Author: Mz. Whitsdom

  • Tiffany Henyard: A Mayor Under Scrutiny

    Tiffany Henyard, the mayor of Dolton, Illinois, has found herself at the center of a storm. Accusations of theft, cover-ups, and sexual assault have cast a shadow over her leadership. In this article, we delve into the allegations, the lawsuit she faces, and the impact on her community.

    Recently, a civil lawsuit was filed against Mayor Henyard. The lawsuit alleges that Dolton Village Trustee Andrew Holmes sexually assaulted a former village employee during a work trip to Las Vegas last May. Shockingly, the lawsuit also implicates Mayor Henyard. According to the complaint, she retaliated against the employee when she tried to come forward about the assault. Henyard is accused of attempting to cover up the incident to protect herself.

    The Allegations

    1. Sexual Assault
    The incident allegedly occurred on May 26, 2023, during a conference in Las Vegas. Trustee Andrew Holmes, a well-known community activist, is accused of assaulting the village employee. The victim, who had joined the trip as one of Henyard’s assistants, claims she knew Holmes well and considered him like an uncle. After Holmes gave her a drink, she felt lightheaded and disoriented. She blacked out and woke up the next morning in his hotel room. The Dolton police officer, part of the mayor’s security detail, received a call from Holmes that night, during which Holmes detailed his “exploits” from the trip, many of which were “sexual” according to the lawsuit.

    2. Alleged Cover-Up
    Mayor Henyard’s involvement is equally troubling. The lawsuit alleges that she tried to cover up the incident to protect herself. When the employee attempted to report the assault, Henyard allegedly retaliated against her. The timing is significant, as it coincides with the hiring of former Chicago Mayor Lori Lightfoot to investigate Henyard’s actions, potential misspending, and the Las Vegas trip allegations.

    3. Community Funds and Trust
    While the sexual assault lawsuit dominates headlines, there are whispers within the community about Mayor Henyard’s financial dealings. Some residents claim that she misused community funds for personal expenses. Allegations range from unauthorized travel expenses to questionable contracts awarded to close associates. These accusations have eroded trust in her leadership, leaving many wondering if their hard-earned tax dollars were diverted for personal gain

    Community Impact
    The allegations against Henyard have shaken the community. Residents are left questioning their leader’s integrity and commitment to justice. As investigations continue, Dolton faces a crisis of trust. The mayor’s office remains silent, refusing to comment on the ongoing legal battle. The community deserves transparency and accountability, especially from its highest elected official.


    Tiffany Henyard’s tenure as mayor hangs in the balance. The sexual assault lawsuit and the alleged cover-up have cast a dark cloud over her leadership. As the legal proceedings unfold, Dolton residents hope for clarity, justice, and a path forward. The community deserves answers, and only time will reveal the truth behind these troubling accusations.

    Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is based on publicly available sources and should not be considered legal advice. The lawsuit is ongoing, and all parties are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law.

  • Beyond the Clickbait: Black Women and the Reality TV Landscape (Uncensored & Unfiltered)

    Reality TV thrives on drama, but in the past three years, shows targeted at young Black audiences have taken it to a whole new level. Networks like Zeus Network, NowThatsTV, and WETv have built empires on a formula of fight culture, overt sexuality, and sometimes even questionable behavior. Now don’t get me wrong. I LOVE reality television; it is my guilty pleasure, however, I watch the shows as social experiments and compare how cast members handle their situations versus how I would handle mine.

    Let’s explore how Black women have been portrayed in this recent wave of reality shows, and how it intersects with social media influence.

    The Rise of “Ratchet” Reality TV

    Since 2021, reality TV for young Black viewers has embraced a more “raw and unfiltered” aesthetic, often at the expense of positive representation. Here are some prime examples:

    • Zeus Network’s “Baddies” Franchise: This show, launched in 2019,  has become infamous for physical altercations like Natalie Nunn, Bad Girls Club alum, throwing drinks and escalating arguments. Spin-offs like “Baddies South” (2022) followed suit, with cast members like Chrisean Rock, Blue Girls Club alum, throwing objects and instigating brawls.
    • “Real Sidechicks of LA/Charlotte/etc” (WETv): This franchise normalizes the “side chick” lifestyle, often portraying Black women in exploitative relationships and materialistic pursuits.
    • “Crazy in Love with Blueface and Chrisean” (Zeus Network): This show cashes in on the volatile relationship between rapper Blueface and Chrisean Rock. Their constant online arguments and public spats blur the lines between reality and performance, feeding into the narrative of conflict as entertainment.

    The Origin of Fight Culture of Reality TV

    The exact origin of fight culture on reality TV is difficult to pinpoint, but it’s a culmination of several factors that have converged over the years. Here’s a breakdown of some possible influences:

    The Rise of Reality TV: Reality TV emerged in the early 1990s with shows like “The Real World” pushing boundaries and showcasing “real life” drama. As competition for viewers increased, networks began to focus on more sensational elements to grab attention.

    Scripted Drama Blending with Reality: The lines between scripted and reality TV have blurred over time. Producers might encourage or even orchestrate certain conflicts to create dramatic moments.

    Audience Preferences: Ratings are king, and networks cater to what viewers seem to enjoy.  High ratings for shows with fights might signal an audience’s appetite for this type of drama.

    Social Media Amplification: The rise of social media has created a feedback loop.  Reality TV stars use platforms like Instagram to promote their shows and their on-screen antics, further fueling the drama and potentially attracting viewers seeking these conflicts.

    The “Trash Talk” Culture: Trash talk and verbal sparring have been a part of various entertainment forms for decades. Reality TV might be an extension of this phenomenon, playing on arguments and insults as a source of amusement.

    Additionally, here are some specific events that might have contributed to the rise of fight culture in reality TV aimed at young Black audiences:

    The Success of Shows Like “Love & Hip Hop” (2007): This show, featuring drama and conflict among Black B-List to D-List celebrities like Joseline Hernandez, Tommie Lee, and others, might have paved the way for more shows with a similar focus.

    The “Super Bowl Brawl” of The Real Housewives of Atlanta (2013): This highly publicized physical altercation between cast members on a mainstream reality show might have normalized such behavior in the genre.

    While the exact origin is debatable, it’s clear that fight culture on reality TV is a complex issue with multiple contributing factors. It’s important to be critical of this portrayal and advocate for more diverse and positive representations of Black women in television.

    Social Media: Amplifying the Drama (and the Endorsements)

    Social media fuels this reality TV firestorm. These women promote their on-screen antics on platforms like Instagram, attracting viewers seeking drama and shock value.  These same stars often leverage their notoriety to land brand endorsements, like FashionNova, further blurring the lines between reality and performance.

    Beyond Catfights: Is This All Black Girl Magic Offers?

    This portrayal isn’t the only story. Here are some positive trends:

    Docuseries and Talk Shows: Shows like “The Real” and “Unsung” offer a platform for Black women to share their struggles and triumphs, celebrating their journeys beyond the superficial.

    Entrepreneurial Spirit: Many young Black women are taking control of their narratives by creating online content showcasing their talents, businesses, and passions.

    Finding Your Voice Beyond the Hype

    The pursuit of fame shouldn’t come at the expense of self-worth.  For young Black women considering reality TV or social media fame, here are some things to consider:

    Lasting Impact: Is a short-lived reality TV stint or a curated social media persona worth potentially damaging your reputation or limiting your opportunities?

    Building a Legacy: What message do you want to send the world? Focus on developing skills and talents that create a lasting impact.

    Finding Your Audience: Social media platforms offer a powerful tool to build an audience on your own terms. Showcase your unique voice and talents, without resorting to negativity.

    The Takeaway: Black Girl Magic is More Than Clickbait

    Black women are diverse, talented, and capable of achieving greatness. Reality TV and social media can be fun, but they shouldn’t be the only paths to success.  Let’s celebrate authentic stories that showcase the full spectrum of Black excellence, the entrepreneurial spirit, and the drive to make a difference in the world.

    There’s More to Black Women Than Reality Bites! Ways we can make sure we keep this line alive include supporting Black-owned businesses and social media influencers who uplift and inspire, using our own social media voices to promote positive representation and stories of Black Woman excellence, and looking for mentorship programs and scholarships designed to empower Black women.

    Let’s move beyond the clickbait and celebrate the Black women who are breaking boundaries and redefining success.

  • Considering a BBL? Safety First, Curves Second

    The Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) has become a popular surgery, with celebrities like Cardi B and Iggy Azalea openly discussing their experiences. But like any cosmetic procedure, a BBL comes with risks. Before you get swept away by the dream of a curvier figure, let’s get informed.

    This surgery removes fat from areas like your stomach or thighs and injects it into your buttocks to create a fuller, rounder shape. It can also involve liposuction to sculpt your waist and hips for a more dramatic hourglass figure. Many celebrities and social media influencers have chosen BBLs. In a 2018 interview, rapper and reality TV star Cardi B spoke about wanting a fuller figure after giving birth. She emphasized the importance of choosing a qualified surgeon, stating “It’s not about getting your body done, but getting it done right.” On an Instagram Live video, (that’s no longer viewable) Cardi B  revealed that she started the process of removing the silicone (or biopolymers) from her butt. She went on and gave some strong advice regarding the procedure.

    All I’m going to say is that if you’re young, if you’re 19, 20, 21, and sometimes you’re too skinny, and you be like, ‘OMG I don’t have enough fat to put in my a–,’ so you result to a– shots, DON’T!

    Rapper and model, Iggy Azalea, has been open about her BBL, mentioning it boosted her confidence on stage. However, she’s also addressed unrealistic expectations, reminding fans that social media portrays a filtered version of reality.

     

    Gia Mayhem, also known as “Rollie” on Zeus Network’s “One Mo’ Chance” and “Baddies West/South/East/Caribbean” has a series airing on Zeus Network called “Transforming Rollie” this year with her raw and uncut surgical journey of transforming her body. “Yeah, there (are) other ways to lose weight, but this is my choice. I wanna lose it this way,” Rollie says in the show’s official trailer.

    The allure of quick, affordable curves can be tempting, but there’s a dangerous side to BBLs.  Unlicensed practitioners, often operating in makeshift clinics, are putting lives at risk. These procedures can lead to:

    • Serious Infections: Performed in unsanitary conditions, these surgeries can introduce harmful bacteria into the body, leading to life-threatening infections.
    • Fat Embolism: Improper injection techniques can cause fat to enter the bloodstream, blocking vital organs.
    • Organ Damage: Injected fat can migrate and damage organs like the lungs or buttocks. 

     

                            
    Model JackyOh to the left; model Jocelyn Cano to the right

    Sadly, BBLs have made headlines for the wrong reasons. Remember social media influencer JackyOh’s tragic death after an unlicensed procedure? Remember Joselyn Cano — another social media influencer and model who passed away following complications from a BBL surgery? Their stories, and others like them, highlight the importance of choosing a board-certified plastic surgeon with extensive experience in BBLs. 

    A board-certified surgeon will recommend the technique best suited to your body and desired outcome.  Let’s break down the key steps to ensure you prioritize your well-being throughout this process:

    Board Certification is Non-Negotiable. Only entrust your body to a board-certified plastic surgeon with extensive experience in BBLs. Verify their credentials through organizations like the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) or the American Board of Plastic Surgery (ABPS). Law enforcement and medical professionals are cracking down on these dangerous practices.  In Houston, Texas, in May 2023, authorities shut down a clinic operating illegally and arrested 41-year-old Margui Castillo.  Castillo, who was not a licensed medical professional, had been performing injectable cosmetic procedures, including “liquid rhinoplasty” with fillers.  This case highlights the dangers of entrusting your body to someone unqualified.  The Texas Medical Board has issued a cease-and-desist order against Castillo, and investigations are ongoing.

    Experience Matters. Look for a surgeon who has performed numerous successful BBLs and can showcase realistic before-and-after photos. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about their specific techniques and safety protocols. Online reviews can be helpful as well. Look for patient reviews on reputable platforms, but remember, these are just one piece of the puzzle. A consultation is essential. By prioritizing safety and choosing a qualified surgeon, you can significantly reduce the risks associated with BBL surgery and achieve your desired results with confidence. Don’t let the allure of quick fixes cloud your judgment. Remember, your health and well-being are far more valuable than any temporary trend.

    When you’re at your consultation, honesty is key. Be upfront about your medical history, desired results, and any concerns you have. A good surgeon will listen attentively and discuss realistic expectations. Watch out for the red flags. Beware of surgeons who pressure you for a quick decision or offer suspiciously low prices. Cutting corners on safety is never worth the risk. Ask about anesthesia,  the type of anesthesia used, and the qualifications of the anesthesiologist.

    Before surgery, you will need Pre-Operative Clearance by your surgeon who will conduct a thorough medical evaluation to ensure you’re healthy enough for surgery. This might involve stopping certain medications, maintaining a healthy diet, and avoiding smoking or alcohol for a specific period. I cannot stress enough to follow instructions carefully during this period. Lastly, ensure your BBL is performed in a fully equipped, accredited surgical center with proper emergency protocols in place.

    Your surgeon will provide detailed instructions on pain management, wound care, and compression garments. Following these diligently is crucial for a smooth recovery. Listen to your body because healing takes time. Don’t rush the process and prioritize rest. Recognize the warning signs of potential complications, such as severe pain, fever, or difficulty breathing. If you experience any of these, seek immediate medical attention.

    Recovery from a BBL is no walk in the park. Expect swelling, bruising, and discomfort for several weeks. You’ll likely need to wear a compression garment for months and avoid sitting directly on your buttocks.  Think support pillows, patience, and prioritizing rest. While results can be stunning, remember, a BBL isn’t a magic bullet. Maintaining your curves requires a healthy lifestyle. Exercise and a balanced diet are key to keeping your booty looking its best.

    A BBL can be a confidence booster, but it’s a serious decision. The desire for a curvier figure can be strong, but when it comes to BBLs, safety should be your top priority. Not all BBLs are created equal! There are different techniques for BBLs, and each carries its own set of risks.  Be wary of the extreme results showcased online on social media. Just because someone like a social media influencer achieved a dramatic transformation, doesn’t mean it’s safe for everyone. Do your research, prioritize safety, and be realistic about expectations. Remember, true beauty comes from feeling good inside and out.

  • March Madness with Your Main Man: A Survival Guide (Even if You Don't Know a Dunk from a Dribble)

    So, March Madness is upon us again. Your man’s glued to the TV, excitement simmering like a pot about to boil over. You, on the other hand, might be feeling a little lost in the world of buzzer-beaters and free throws. Fear not, ladies! Here’s how to turn those next few weeks into a win-win situation.

    Embrace the Atmosphere: March Madness isn’t just about the game; it’s the energy! Decorate with team colors (bonus points for learning his favorite team’s mascot!), whip up some themed snacks (think mini basketball cookies!), and crank up the volume for those buzzer-beaters. Let the excitement be contagious!

    Become His Personal Bracket Consultant (Even if You’re Clueless): This might sound daunting, but it’s all about fun. Pick some teams based on cool mascots, catchy names, or even their uniforms (who doesn’t love a good shade of teal?). Ask him to explain the reasoning behind his picks, turning it into a playful learning experience. Who knows, you might surprise yourself with a newfound knowledge of slam dunks!

    Make it a Multitasking Masterpiece: Let’s be honest, sometimes basketball isn’t our cup of tea. No worries! Set up a craft station next to the TV, catch up on a good book, or even fold laundry while cheering alongside him for those close calls. You’ll still be spending quality time together, with the added bonus of getting things done!

    Turn it into a Date Night: March Madness doesn’t have to be all basketball, all the time. Plan a pre-game dinner with his favorite takeout, or surprise him with a post-game massage (especially after a heart-stopping nail-biter!). It’s all about creating shared experiences that show him you care, even if you can’t tell a three-pointer from a free throw.

    The Most Important Play – Communication: Communication is key in any relationship. Talk to your man! Let him know you’re interested in spending time with him, basketball or not. Maybe you can compromise by watching one game together and then picking an activity you both enjoy. Remember, it’s about quality time and shared experiences, not memorizing the intricacies of jump balls.

    BONUS TIP: Feeling adventurous? Learn a basic basketball term or two with him. Impress him with your newfound knowledge of “traveling” or a “free throw.” You’ll earn major brownie points and maybe even a playful high five!

    March Madness can be a fun way to bond with your partner, even if basketball isn’t your forte. By being supportive, creative, and open to learning a little bit (or a lot!)  you can turn those next few weeks into a slam dunk for your relationship. You got this, sis!

  • Mom on a Mission: Level Up Your Skills Online!

    Being a mom is the most rewarding job in the world, but sometimes you might crave a little personal growth too. Maybe you’re looking to re-enter the workforce, change careers, or even start your own business. The good news? You can achieve all of this – and more –  without sacrificing precious family time, thanks to the magic of online learning.

    Why Online Learning is a Mom’s Best Friend

    Flexibility: Learn at your own pace, whenever you have a spare moment (those nap times become golden!).

    Cost-effective: Online courses are generally more affordable than traditional education.

    Variety: There’s literally a course for everything – from business and marketing to tech skills and creative pursuits.

    Convenience: Learn from the comfort of your own home, in your pajamas if you like!

    Level Up Your Skillset with Alison

    Alison is a fantastic platform bursting with free, high-quality online courses.  They offer a massive library on a wide range of topics, so you’re sure to find something that piques your interest and helps you reach your goals.

    Here are some ideas to get you started:

    Career Changers: Explore courses in project management, bookkeeping, web development, graphic design, and more!

    Business Builders: Learn the essentials of marketing, social media, customer service, and starting your own business.

    Tech Savvy Moms: Brush up on your computer skills or delve into coding, data analysis, or cybersecurity.

    The sky’s the limit! With Alison, you can gain valuable skills and certifications that will make you a more competitive candidate in the job market or give you the confidence to launch your dream business.

    Ready to Take Action?

    Head over to Alison and browse their extensive course catalog.  You can use my affiliate link to get started on your learning journey today! Remember, moms – you are capable, you are strong, and you can achieve anything you set your mind to. With a little online learning, you can be that mom who has it all – a fulfilling career, a happy family, and the satisfaction of personal growth.

    Bonus Tip: Don’t be afraid to start small. Take one course at a time and celebrate your progress.  You’ve got this, mama!

  • Slay All Day: A Black Woman's Guide to Unlocking Unstoppable Self-Empowerment (and a Sip of "The Empowerment Elixir")

    Hey Sisterfriend!

    We’ve all been there. The world throws shade, expectations pile up like dirty dishes, and the daily grind feels like a never-ending treadmill. It’s enough to make even the fiercest queen question her power. But darlin’, here’s the secret sauce: you were born with the strength and resilience of a Black goddess. It’s time to dust off that crown, reclaim your inner magic, and step into the self-empowered Black woman you were always meant to be.

    Self-Empowerment: More Than Just a Buzzword

    Self-empowerment isn’t just a trendy hashtag. It’s the revolutionary act of taking the steering wheel of your life. It’s about believing in yourself, your gifts, and your right to create a life that makes your soul sing. It’s about tuning out the noise and turning up the volume on your inner wisdom.

    Why is Self-Empowerment Essential for Black Women?

    As Black women, we navigate a world that often tries to clip our wings. We’re bombarded with messages that try to define us, limit us, and dim our light. But self-empowerment is our armor. It’s the shield that deflects negativity and the sword that carves our own path to success. It allows us to rise above the limitations and rewrite the narrative for ourselves and future generations.

    The Recipe for Self-Empowerment: A Mix of Sweet and Savory

    So, how do we become these self-empowered queens? Here’s a taste of the ingredients you’ll need to whip up your own personal recipe for success:

    • Redefining Beauty: From Eurocentric Standards to Black Excellence. First things first, let’s shatter the Eurocentric beauty myth. Our rich skin tones, full lips, and kinky hair are testaments to our strength and beauty. Celebrate your Blackness, sis! Rock your braids, embrace your curves, and let your melanin glow.
    • Evicting the Inner Critic: Bye Felicia! We all have that annoying voice in our heads whispering doubts and insecurities. Don’t give it rent space in your precious mind palace! Challenge those negative thoughts. Identify your strengths, remind yourself of your accomplishments, and speak to yourself with the love and respect you deserve.
    • Investing in Yourself: You Deserve a Five-Star Spa Day (Every Day!) Self-care isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity. Prioritize your well-being, both mental and physical. Devour books that light a fire in your soul. Take that dance class you’ve been eyeing. Light candles, draw a bubble bath and disconnect from the outside world. You deserve to feel pampered and rejuvenated!
    • Building Your Sisterhood: Surrounding Yourself with Queens Who Lift You Up. No woman is an island, and Black women especially thrive in the community. Find your tribe, a circle of fierce Black sisters who celebrate your wins, support you through struggles, and inspire you to be your best self. Look for women who share your values, uplift your spirit, and hold you accountable for your dreams.

    The Empowerment Recipe Book cover

    • The Power of “The Empowerment Elixir” For a deeper dive into self-empowerment, consider sipping from my book, The Empowerment Elixir: Recipes to Nourish Your Mind & Inspire Your Soul. This book goes beyond the basics, offering powerful tools and practical exercises to help you:
      • Unmask Your Limiting Beliefs: Identify the negative thoughts holding you back and rewrite your personal narrative with affirmations and visualizations.
      • Craft Powerful Intentions: Get crystal clear on your goals and dreams. Learn to harness the power of intention setting to manifest your desires and create a life that aligns with your deepest aspirations.
      • Discover Self-Care Rituals: Uncover techniques for nurturing your mind, body, and spirit. From meditation to journaling to movement practices, you’ll find ways to create sustainable self-care practices that promote lasting self-love and inner peace.

    Remember, My Queen, You Are Enough

    Throughout your journey of self-empowerment, never forget this: your voice matters, your dreams are valid, and you are worthy of achieving anything you set your mind to. Claim your power, embrace your journey, and let your light shine so bright it illuminates the world. Let’s rewrite the story, dismantle limiting beliefs, and create a world where Black women rise together, unstoppable forces claiming their rightful place on the throne.

    With love, strength, and a sprinkle of magic,

    Mz. Whitsdom

     

  • From TikTok Tears to Tea: The Reesa Teesa Saga and Lessons on Social Media Scrutiny

     

    Remember Reesa Teesa? The TikTok star who captivated audiences with her emotional, 50-part saga detailing her ex-husband’s alleged betrayal?  Well, the story just took another turn! Let’s dive into the drama, explore the online firestorm, and unpack some key takeaways for anyone navigating the wild world of social media.

    From Heartbreak to Viral Stardom

    Reesa Teesa’s series, titled  “Who tf did I Marry?”, resonated with viewers due to its raw portrayal of heartbreak and betrayal. She chronicled alleged lies, manipulation, and financial deception at the hands of her then-anonymous ex-husband. The internet, naturally, became invested. Reesa Teesa met her ex-husband, whom she referred to as “Legion” (real name Jerome McCoy), on a dating app shortly before the pandemic. They quickly moved in together due to quarantine restrictions. Their relationship escalated rapidly, culminating in a wedding in January 2021. According to Reesa Teesa, a miscarriage during this period drew them closer. Despite the wedding, Reesa Teesa claims she “knew she was in serious trouble” by the end of January 2021. She alleges she ignored red flags throughout the relationship for various reasons. Reesa Teesa overall painted a picture of a manipulative and deceitful marriage and claimed “Legion” lied about his job, finances, and even a criminal past.

    Charlamagne tha God (left), Reesa Teesa (right)

    Charlamagne Tha God Chimes In (and Sparks Outrage)

    Radio personality Charlamagne Tha God stirred the pot by commenting on Reesa Teesa’s situation during his show.  His use of the term “big back” to describe plus-size women seeking love was widely slammed as fatphobic and insensitive. Many felt it detracted from the seriousness of Reesa’s claims. Charlamagne issued an apology.

    “Sometimes the easiest way to keep your own peace is to not disturb the peace of others. I disturbed that woman’s peace and that wasn’t my intention. So I apologize if my words made her feel that way…BUT I do have two things to say. Number one I never said she don’t deserve love because of her size. I didn’t even know she was big. Jess told the story and I said, ‘It sound like big back behavior and I started talking about big back beliefs. Now, if y’all wanna have a conversation about reinforcing negative stereotypes about big backs, I understand. I’m open to it. But acting like I was having a conversation about Reesa Teesa’s looks and size. That’s not accurate. Reesa is getting a lot of props for being so vulnerable. Salute to her, but I personally feel like we have to stop bringing this stuff to social media if you can’t handle people having an opinion.”

    Photo source: TMZ

    The Ex-Husband Speaks Up (But is it Too Little, Too Late?)

    Following the online frenzy, Reesa Teesa’s ex-husband, Legion, born Jerome Rome McCoy, finally came forward.  However, his public apology seemed to only fuel the fire.  Many questioned the timing and sincerity of his statement. He refutes Reesa Teesa’s claims in her “Who tf did I Marry?” series, calling them “completely false.” He alleged that Reesa Teesa cheated on him during their marriage, leading to the break-up. He even considered legal action against Reesa for allegedly damaging his reputation with her online narrative.

    Lessons Learned: Social Media, Self-Care, and Setting Boundaries

    The Reesa Teesa saga offers valuable lessons for anyone active online:

    • Think Before You Post: Sharing personal details online can bring unexpected consequences.
    • Beware the Backlash: Social media can be a breeding ground for negativity.
    • Prioritize Self-Care: It’s vital to protect your mental health during challenging times.
    • Set Boundaries: Not everyone online deserves your story.

    Looking Ahead: What’s Next for Reesa Teesa?

    Reesa Teesa has remained relatively quiet since Charlamagne’s “big back” comment.  Whether she chooses to continue sharing her story or step away from the spotlight is yet to be seen. The Reesa Teesa saga may be nearing its end, but the conversation about online safety and responsible social media use continues.  Remember,  sharing online comes with a responsibility to be mindful of yourself and others.

    The Reesa Teesa saga throws light on the often-uncertain world of online dating and the double-edged sword of social media. While online dating platforms offer a chance for connection, caution is crucial. Be wary of rushing into relationships and prioritize getting to know someone well before taking significant steps. Sharing personal experiences online can be cathartic and raise awareness, but it also opens the door to public scrutiny and potential negativity. Weigh the pros and cons before hitting “post.” Ultimately, the Reesa Teesa story doesn’t offer easy answers.  It serves as a cautionary tale and a reminder of the complexities of navigating online connections and sharing our lives on social media.

  • Another Case of Bad Friends

     

    This post is not meant to create paranoia but to raise awareness. This is to shine light can better protect ourselves and the women around us. Some of the following content may be graphic.

    FRIENDSHIP… a word synonymous with trust, loyalty, and support. Yet, the harsh reality is that for some women, this very trust can be tragically misplaced.  This post sheds light on a danger often overlooked – women murdered by those they considered friends.

    Statistics show that a significant portion of women are murdered by acquaintances or friends.  These cases are particularly devastating because the victim lowers their guard, making them more vulnerable.  The perpetrator, often someone the victim confides in, exploits this trust for personal gain or twisted gratification. The reasons behind these murders can vary. Jealousy, revenge, or financial gain can all be catalysts.  Scenarios can include seemingly harmless situations escalating to violence, planned attacks by manipulative “friends,” or even a friend turning on their companion during a seemingly safe and chill moment.

    In recent news, we learned that Mahogany Jackson, a 20-year-old mother, was killed on Feb. 25th at an apartment in Birmingham, Alabama. The morning of, Mahogany texted her mother that she was being held hostage: “Send the police at apt 3 held hostage don’t call.” She was handcuffed, stripped, tortured, and forced to perform s*x acts on four men and four women before being executed by a gunshot wound to the back of the head…AND IT WAS RECORDED! Video footage (that I refuse to watch) also showed Jackson being stomped and spat on before getting dragged by her hair, naked toward a car’s trunk. Her body was later dumped at an illegal dump site called “Dead Man’s Road.”

    Brandon Pope, 24, Francis “Ace” Harris, 25, and Jeremiah “Kodak” McDowell, 18 – were charged with capital murder, first-degree kidnapping, and capital murder during first-degree sodomy. Teja Lewis, 26, Si’Niya McCall, 23, Giovannie Clapp, 23, Blair Green, 25, and Ariana Lashay Robinson, 23, were charged with felony murder, along with first-degree kidnapping and first-degree sodomy.

    Respectfully, this took me back to the case of Shanquella Robinson, who was also killed by a group of friends and acquaintances in October 2022 on a trip in Cabo San Lucas. Another situation THAT WAS RECORDED showed Shanquella being naked, brutally beaten and defenseless by a woman who was a part of the group. She was found in stable condition but dehydrated, disorientated, verbally unresponsive, unable to communicate, and appearing to be intoxicated. Within a few hours of medical treatment, she passed away. An autopsy showed the cause of death being severe spinal cord injury and broken neck. After investigations made by the State Attorney General’s Office of Baja California Sur and the FBU, authorities decided to not pursue criminal charges related to Shanquella’s death. Even after Black Twitter broke the case down and made major developments, no criminal charges!

    Ladies, we must protect ourselves. While it may seem impossible to eliminate all risk, here are some steps we can take. Trust Carefully: Don’t rush into deep friendships. Observe a person’s behavior over time. Boundaries Matter: Set and maintain healthy boundaries. Don’t be afraid to say no and walk away from unhealthy dynamics. Listen to Your Gut: If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t ignore red flags. Tell Someone: If you go on a “friend” trip, let your loved ones or those you trust back home know your whereabouts, It is okay to even share your location with them. Safety Planning: If a friend becomes threatening, create a safety plan FOR YOURSELF.

    The late Dallas, TX rapper MO3, has a famous lyric that unfortunately rings true: “Everybody ain’t yo friend, Everybody ain’t yo partna…”

    A few resources: 

    • The National Center for Victims of Crime: National Center for Victims of Crime: https://victimsofcrime.org/
    • The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

  • Natalie Nunn's Cheating Allegations: Untangling the Rumors

    Natalie Nunn, the reality star known for her fiery personality on shows like “Bad Girls Club” and “Baddies” found herself in the headlines once again on March 4, 2024 for alleged infidelity. On her Instagram live, Natalie FINALLY admitted that she and Bad Boys LA cast member Curtis Golden were a THING! She says she didn’t cheat on her husband Jacob because they were on a break and co-parenting well. She went on to say she decided to tell it because Curtis was extorting her for more material items and money.

    Click here for the full video on BadBtchTea IG

    So Natalie goes live on IG to address it then goes live again showing off watches, shoes, purses, etc. This is after Stunna Girl, Bay Area rapper and former cast member of Baddies (West), leaked a video of Natalie and Curtis’s special moments together. Let’s go back down memory lane.

    The London Affair, 2018-2019

     

    Natalie joins the Big Brother UK Season 22 cast, along with notable international names like the late Kirstie Alley, and other reality stars in the UK. Two castmates, Dan Osborne and Chloe Ayling, and Natalie allegedly had a threesome in 2019, all while Natalie was deep in her marriage with Jacob Payne. While these were accusations and allegations, Natalie posted a picture of her and Jacob on their anniversary with somewhat of an apology post (see above). Why the apology if the rumors weren’t true? 😒 (By the way, Big Brother UK 22 was a great season!)

    OnlyFans During Quarantine, 2020-2021
    In the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic, Natalie Nunn, like many others, saw a shift in her professional opportunities. With entertainment industries largely on hold, Nunn turned to OnlyFans as a platform to connect with fans and generate income. OnlyFans offers content creators the ability to generate income directly from their fan base through subscriptions and paid content; except during the pandemic, many porn stars generated lots of income with their OnlyFans channels. In Natalie’s case, she chose to go THAT route and has many salacious pictures and videos. She even went live a few times having threesomes with women. (That I have seen for myself and will not post the video.) Baddies cast member, Scotlynd “Scotty” Ryan was also in videos with Natalie doing some naughty things. Natalie’s presence on OnlyFans (and Tory Lanez’ Quarantine IG show) increased public awareness of her and potentially the “Baddies” franchise overall. Baddies started as Bad Bitch Reunion on OnlyFans with Bad Girls Club alums Rocky, Shannon, Sarah (executive producer and brains behind the show), and Jada. Later, the project was picked up by Zeus Network and “Baddies” was born. We will briefly discuss Lemuel Plummer, Zeus Network CEO, in a few.
     
    She Likes the Bad Boyz, 2022-Present

    Rapper Fivio Foreign also claimed on a podcast that Natalie Nunn was cheating on her husband with his friend, Louis Paso. Fivio alleged Paso used his connection to him to gain favor with Natalie. She replied on her IG story refuting the claims and asserted that Louis Paso is simply mentoring her in her pursuit of a rap career. 🤦‍♀️

    Previously, leaked videos allegedly showed her engaging in extramarital activities with another reality TV personality, Curtis Golden. These videos, combined with long-standing rumors about Nunn and Payne having an open or polyamorous relationship, further muddied the waters. Curtis was everywhere! Many reality TV stars within the Zeus Network have stated that Curtis is Natalie’s boy-toy, she’s never with her husband Jacob, and she is Curtis’ “sugar mama.”

    This is the video Stunna Girl leaked that made Natalie Nunn go live on Instagram.

    Stunna Girl leaked an audio in regards to Natalie and Lemmy messing around. Yes, the CEO…her boss…Executive Producer of Baddies….married to Janiesha…YES, HIM. You listen and tell me what you think.

    My Thoughts

    Natalie, I think you jumped off the porch too fast on this one by going live on Instagram explaining to the masses and pretty much confirming all rumors about you and Curtis. Yes, I get it that you were his sugar mama and he was your sidepiece. I get that you and Jacob were on a break at the time, he knows everything and (so you say) your marriage is fine — and made clear that it is NOT an open marriage. However, when you mentioned in your IG live that Curtis was scheduled to do an interview on No Jumper, I immediately saw this as a “let me save face and tell everything so no one can tell my story.” I personally do not think Jacob isn’t going anywhere, but you got a daughter, sis. Sure, all of this money can sustain her, but what about the reputation? I think you should have kept your mouth shut, talked to your lawyers on the backend, and let them do your thing (if it is worth the headache). If you and your husband have an understanding and your home is good, then explaining everything to the masses was a bad move.

    Stay tuned for more drama with real rich people…